Friday, April 10, 2009

Return on Your Investment

Today people are all about getting a return on there investment, so why don't they expect the same out of relationships??

A relationship is very much like an investment. You are investing your time, money, heart, etc. into someone that maybe you've done your research on and think is a safe bet, or maybe your taking a risk on someone based on a gut feeling with high hopes that it will pay off in the end. Before making this investment, there are some things to consider: Is it safe? How much risk are you willing to take? Does it meet your goals? Have your googled him (my favorite form of legal stalking)??

Most good investors know that there are always going to be rough times, and if you are in it for the long haul, it's important not to jump ship at the first sign of trouble. That mean just because you have one fight about who's going to hang up the phone first, doesn't mean you should break up and run for the hills. However, a good investor also knows when to cut the investment loose, accept the losses sustained, and move on to invest (date) again.

Unfortunately, most women suffer from one of the following psychological defects that makes it hard to be objective in these situations:
1) I'm-sure-I-can-change-him-even-though-no-one-else-has-been-able-to syndrome
2) he's-only-an-asshole-to-me-when-other-people-are-around phrenia
3) It-must-be-me phobia
4) At-least-he-comes-home-to-me delusions
5) If-I-stick-around-he-will-eventually-fall-in-love-with-me complex

NO! ::throws a shoe at you::

Relationships are an investment, and you can evaluate your investment by metaphorically charting the return that you are receiving. Yes, the bigger the risk, the greater the return..but you have to be willing to walk away at some point. This is not to be confused with giving up, you are not giving up by walking away from a bad investment.

I am the first person that will tell you dating is hard now a days..but why would you put up with someone treating you like a cheap pair of shoes?? If the person your dating is not willing to commit to you, compromise on issues, return the favor (haha), make you a priority, acknowledge that you matter, provide you with security (the stable kind, not the I'll beat someone up for looking at you kind), or just generally show you they are headed for an investment nightmare!

Think about it..